your pick!

two of my old girlfriends from high school recetly got engaged last february 14. three of my other guy friends married in 2006. now, i realized more than half of my friends are married. half are seriously taken. and a very few single, unmarried, unattached like me are left.

through all these ordeal, i am often confronted and bombarded with "when are you getting married?" questions by my family, friends and peers. and so often, i wished i had the answer to their querries. but i really don't. i feel like the man meant for me has not met me yet.

"what and who can he be?" they asked again. they blabbered about a man should have a sense of humor. they wished for me a man of having abilities to have courage, love, and forgiveness. even remarked the adjectives of consistent, generous, strong, responsible, and brave next to their names.

but how do we know that the men we meet have all these desirable qualities? do we always have to date and go out with a guy, have our hearts broken because we discover that the men we often seek are the opposite? these men put different faces for different people. men think they have to be all macho and pretend what they are not. i feel like, perhaps, there are better things to look for, things that can be noticed through any mask. so, who is real?

with all that noted, i decided to take a few things in consideration when choosing a mate who would define my "ideal man," in no particular order.

• someone who love God with all his heart and soul. for without HIM, he is nothing to me. we are nothing.
• someone who is a warrior of love - - - ready to fight for me even if it's against all odds. i will do the same for him. i'm tired of guys who can't stand up for his girl.
• someone who my mother approves. she's a tough critic but heck, my mother knows best. he has to get along with my mom because my mom wants nothing but the best for me.
• someone who is like my dad: generous (giving it all ), loving (my papa walks my mom to her car every night before she goes to work and kisses her good night), consistent (my papa takes my mom on weekly dates) and a great father ( my dad washed diapers, went to PTA meetings, cooked us breakfast ---all the motherly things, my father did that!)
• someone who is not afraid to tell what is on his mind. someone who is not afraid to argue with me and admit he is sorry if he said or do something wrong.
• someone who respects with mother and father and who adores his siblings and close to his extended family.
• someone who will just be there....bring me lunch at work, walk my dog with me, sit with our foot tucked under the sand, watch a movie at home, lie right next to me all day on a saturday ---- someone who will make every excuse just to be with me.
• someone who brave and is not afraid to try anything ---bunjee jumping, fast car driving, scuba diving, korean food, waxing (LOL), you name it. there's nothing so captivating than a man who is quite adventurous.
• someone who is romantic --- dance in the rain, kiss in the middle of the street, write me love letters by hand...list can go on.
• someone who can make me laugh and laugh with me.
• someone who will hold my hand EVEN if we're eighty, old and gray.

my list is still work in progress. i'm sure i stil missed a lot of thing i'd want to enlist there. it can go on forever. while other seek for their perfect mate, the one who dreams of someone who never has a cloudy day, i strongly believe there is no such man.

i'm realistic. i know there is no such thing as the "the perfect man" just like there is no perfect woman. i don't want a man who just desires a perfect wife ---someone to cook, clean, do launry and look beautiful in his arms at his company's christmas parties.

i'm not hard to please. i might intimidate other gentleman because of my personality, my financial status, and my educational background. but if they took the time to get to know me, i am really just a simple girl who takes pleasure in simple things.

simply put, i want a man is committedly willing to be a husband. someone who will love me for being me, someone who will embrace my imperfections and who would have me other way.

but like i said, there is no such thing as "mr. perfect" whom i will check off every criteria i have on my list. but i am still secretly wishing there is who is perfect for me. and i'm praying i will meet him, "mr. the one." but i won't choose.

i know in my heart, mr right will come. so, maybe it's time to say, "God, i can't pick...YOU pick!"

i know you know better anyway.

posted by pinay freestyle @ 5:09 PM

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