rrrr. i'm irritated. i have been irritated. there's so much things i need to solve. some things i can't mention here and would rather leave it confidential. but the ones i can discuss, i will talk about now.
*scenario 1*
motherly concern?
what would you do ifyour mom found out that you are with someone and you never told her and now, she confronts you to tell the truth (and you want to) but you are not quite ready for it? well, that's what happened to me. my strict, overprotective mother asked me who is this "supportive boyfriend" my auntie lu talked about?
for a minute, i was contemplating whether i should completely deny ron or just tell her what's really going on. let's say, i don't tell her. i knwo for sure i willbe accuse of lying. and plus, she already found out anyway because my aunt who i thought can keep her mouth close just burned me out. i will be yelled at. and if i do tell her, she will confront me with open ended questions that will require extensive anwers.
well, i told her the truth. and yep, i was right. i was attacked, more like, i was bombarded with questions like, "how did you meet him?, " "is he filipino?," "does he go to college?," "what is he taking?,"" how is his family?" rrr. just plain irky. so i go into details answering, "his name is ron, i met him from a friend in school, he's korean, he goes to college majoring in criminal law (she asked,"what is criminal law?"), he wants to be a lawyer, his mom is a registered nurse" and so forth and so on.
then she goes further, " are you sure he loves you?" " how do you know?" " are you sure he's serious?" "are you just using him for a rebound?" "whatever happen to glenn, that guy from hawaii? what about mickey, who's ben? who's steve?" "is this guy, what's his face, ron, the reason why you are going back here in los angeles?"
as you see...it's getting annoying. well, i answered politely and inform her all the things she needs to know. but ahh..it hasn't stop. good thing it was getting late at night so i had to go. but i bet cha she will put meon check. i am sure she will bug me to meet ron so she can "check " him out and "interview" (actually, grillhim!!!, ron calls it, "electric chair") him herself.
which brings me to ...
*scenario 2*
boyfriend fright...scared or too macho to admit it?
after not being able to talk to ron for a long time ( a week), i told him about this situation with my momma. and he starts freakin' out. now, he told me to convince my mom not to call his house, or why did i tell my mom?or to make up some other excuse....so he can't be confronted...because according to him,"it's my mom" (referring to me) that we are talking about.
what?! i explained that this was a circumstance beyond my control. and that if by any chance, my mother decides it was time to get to know him, then i have no control over it. i cautioned him to prepare himself for big time grilling and that to remind him that my mother is actually nice (to other people....not me...LOL) as long as he is polite and as long as he is himself.
well, out conversation is cut off because ron's brother just came home and ron is suppose to be "grounded." so i have yet to concluse this story.
*scenario 3*
insecure wife, marriage with no trust.
rememebr my friend lance whom i mentioned on my previos entries just thsi month? well, his wife..or the mother of his kids called me, yelling hysterically, assuming (not even asking if i was or not) i was lance's "other girl." i swear she is a freak. i mean she is 26 or 27 years old and she acted like a 13 years old screaming on top ofher lungs asking me who the hell i was andto stop calling lance.
well, what did i do? i told her that first and for all, if she was going to talk to me, she needed to calm down and lower her tone of voice. then i said i am lance's best friend from way back in high shool...even before he knew you. in fact, i was also the same homegirl who advised lance to get back to her sorry rear and be the father of the their baby. and that also i was NEVER interested with lance and if i was, i would been with him a long time ago.
the onlyreason why i called lance back was because he left me a message onmy cellphone and to call him back on his cellphone.in that message, i mentioned the phrases, "okay then, take good care of your kids and your wife.be responsible. god bless." now tell me, is that a message meant to annoy her ?or imply that i like lance? or to ruin their marriage?
she went off and continued yelling, " i don't care. you can't call lance. he can't have friends because i don't have friends. how would i know who is telling the truth? he cheated on me before. we have kids now. we are married.what ifyour boyfriend did this to you? what wouldyou feel if you heard a girl's message on your bf'scellphone? wouldn't you react the same way? "
i understood where she was coming from. i know they have issues but i uttered back that whatever problems they have right now, i have nothing to do with it. it was something between them two. it is a matter of trust. why woudlyou marry someone if you do nto completely trust him.and withmyboyfriendron, if this was our case, i willcheckallmy facts and dats first before i can react. but i truly trust my boyfriend. it is something i strongly establish before i even get into a relationship. i will handle the confrontation in a manner that is calm and not angry so i can also get decent answers.
well, she is a psychotic lunatic that she never heard what i said. she insisted she was right. so what do i do? i told her that i demand an apology for the harsh things she mentioned about me. i will hung up the phone and that that will be the last time i will call. and if they are planning to call me back, it better be an apology phonecall. otherwise, i am not tolerating any of these problems. i also metioned that this isn't my problem. they need to work on themselves as a couple, to trust, to communicate more. and also her lack of self esteem. she needs to get rid of her insecurities. and to not project her anger towards her marriage and towards lance to other innocent people like she did to me.
i ended the conversation with a punch and told her that i am not going down her level, because i understand what she is going through but do nto blame all your frustrations on me. i will nont curse or badmouth her, because i know better than that. i am well educated, i was raised with heightened morals and values by my parents who also taught me to treat others with great respect and interferring one's marriage life was not even listedin my to do list. with that said, i advise her to work on herself and to work on her marriage. otherwise, their marriage willgo down the drain.
she was still yelling, so my last gesture was, "have a very nice night." and i hung up on her.
posted by pinay freestyle @ 12:51 AM
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