Wednesday, October 31, 2012
UNSENT: Sad  10/31/12 9:13 pm Dear______, I reread his old text my ex Simon. I also read Allan's text. His anger. His wrath. How many more times can I endure the pain. How many more times can I deal with the hurt?  I don't know. I miss my my son. Why dies it have to be him to die? Why can't it be me, Lord? Everyday is filled with tears. Tears of sadness because I miss my son. Why can't he survive. I just drank couple shots of Vodka. Because the pain I feel inside is too much to overcome. In two days, it will be November 2 All Soul's Day for us Filipinos. 17 months yesterday since my son passed away. Where do I go? How can I far rid of the torment of losing a child?  Lord, I still don't understand. The alcohol numbs for couple of hours. But the pain remains. And I tried to love Allan. Only to find out, I was an "opportunity" to make his life better. He is married out of a shotgun wedding. Married with three kids.  I do feel he loves me. But my conscience can not take it. How can I love someone who has a wife from a teenage pregnancy and a shotgun wedding and three children who will hurt in the process? My morals and my ethics are questioned. I love Allan as much as I love Simon. I hope they felt that my love was real and genuine. Where do I go really? Where do I find myself after having a miscarriage and not even knowing I was pregnant and discovering Simon's cheating and after that, Allan's lies about being separated and finding out later that they are living together and STILL married? Where do I go really? Where do I fins myself? How can I be whole when my heart and soul is shattered? The vodka isn't even numbing the pain. The tears have not stop from falling every night. And I force the people I love out of my way. No one understands. No one gets what it is like to lose a child out of love and finding out Simon cheated on me. And that girl claims she is pregnant and I get all their angry texts. As if what I am going through is not enough torture.  And Allan, he told me he was separated from his wife. Only to find out they still love together and still having sex regularly. And I gave him a laptop to discover he sold it for money after all my hardworking effort to send it to him. I never claim to be perfect. I have had my share of shortcomings. But aborting my own flesh and blood is so NoT me. And breaking a family isn't me either. But how do you tell that and command your heart?  It's not easy. Everyday, I try to discover ways to make this life purposeful. Everyday I struggle with my conscience. Why do I have to ensure all these pain when all I desired was to love? How many more nights will it take for me to cry? How many more broken heart and soul episodes do I have to go through? Lord, You know I have been nothing but faithful. You know that I've given my all. But sometimes, I question why me?  And yet, I'm breathing. Maybe "existing" is more of the right word. I think eversince my son died, I was merely existing. Life has been empty. I'm thankful for Allan who kept me alive and away from the pain. But his lying to me multiplied the pain I felt. Lord, I don't know where I am going. Lead me to the right path. Life sometimes has been unbearable. It continues to slice me. The wound still bleeds. I'm oozing with hurt. And yet, I have to find ways to just survive...just to live one more day at a time. Help me, Lord. Instill in me that I'm worthied to live. That I still have a purpose. That life still has a meaning. Because lately, I'm losing hope. I miss my son so much. When You took my son back, part of me died with him. Take care of my baby son, his Auntie Vicky and my dogs Ariel and Tobi. They know the truth Lord. Make them my Angels and guide me and look after me. If Simon is happy with his new partner the girl he cheated on ms with and claims she is pregnant with their child, I have no other choice but be happy for them. It hurts me so much but I have to be happy that my baby son will have siblings.  And Allan, I don't know if he is the one for me. I'm pushing him away so he can go back to his family who needs him the most. I'll spare my won happiness for his kids who wants a complete family. I do love him. I've fallen in love with him. But is that enough knowing I've wreck a family? That's not who I am.  Sorry for my shortcomings. Forgive me of my mistakes. Lord, guide me. Lord, keep me strong. Lord, take away the sadness in my heart. Wipe these tears away. I'm holding on hoping for a better day. I'm just hanging on by a  thread. Yet, be with me, Lord.  I am crying again...just like every night. Not that I want to but because that's how I respond to hurt. I cry. But Lord, if I can not take it anymore, just take me back in Your arms. I'm trying so hard to live. But each day seems unbearable.  If I can't take it anymore Lord, just take mr with You and let me be with my son. Let me hug my son one more time. Free me from all the torment. Free me from all the pain like You said in Revelation 21. I'm hanging by a moment. I'm confused. I'm lost. Let me find my way back home to You. ;(  Sad face, Len 

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MY SILENT REVERIES
writing is my passion. i created silent reveries years ago to vent out things i could not tell the world. it was my private, modern tech approach to scribbling my thoughts and emotions in a journal. in here, i can feely be who i am. i could cry my woes, i can love freely, i can grieve over a broken heart, i can celebrate the joys in my heart, i can rejoice with my accomplishments, i can tell stories of remarkable friendships and unforgettable connections i made with extraordinary people SECRETLY AND SILENTLY without worrying people might judge me. i hid under the name PINAY FREESTYLE.

but eventually, some people gained access to my secret place. so i opened my doors to them in the purpose that i could inspire them: to be better versions of themselves and to share themselves to the world. slowly, i embraced my readers as a part of my life. i welcomed the strange idea that my untold life stories and unconcealed revelations could be of help to others, to love and accept themselves as they are. and i, i came out from the animosity. i eventually became just the regular LEN - the nickname my family & friends call me.

i developed stories of love, of letting go, of falling in love all over again. i made great friendships. but if there's one thing i was particularly proud of, it was my undenying love for the LORD. i wrote and made soul searching, heart wrenching entries i entitled, "SPIRITUAL REVERIES" which you will find many here. it was my productive way to heal myself from twinge and while i am at it, i could also mend others spirits along the way and bring them back up to par with their faith and relationships with God. it has not stop there. it's still a constant journey.

and so, for as long as i can, i vowed to tell my memorable reflections,i have unmasked the hidden me. and the seeking and searching of life's meaning and purpose is not over. LIFE is a long road of discovering. and i still yet to discover many wonders of this world and satisfy my unending curiosity. but be warned. you can either love me or hate me. but i don't care. this is me: sripped and bare as i can be.

so i invite you into my chaotic unperfect world. join me in my whirlwind new travels of diving into the unknowns. let me share my life with you all over again. come in, as i tell you my SILENT REVERIES.

love,
len


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